Enjoy Differences For Variety Spices Life

Swami Sukhabodhananda www.prasannatrust.org. A young couple asked, "We have been married for several years but the only thing common between us is our irreconcilability. We are not able to make decisions; our indecisiveness is our common point. We don't even smile at each other. What do we do?"
My response is simple: Celebrate. Celebrate your differences. Make your differences fuel your togetherness. Just imagine how boring life would be if there were no differences.
Often people say they are upset that life is full of contradictions. Life is not so small that we can put it into compartments like good and bad, right and wrong, evil and noble.
Life is vast; so vast that it is big enough to include contradictions in its fold. The Kali symbol is a good illustration of this.
Goddess Kali is shown dancing on the chest of her husband, Shiva. She loves her husband and at the same time dances on his chest, almost killing him. Life is full of contradictions.
One has to accept them gracefully and at the same time change whatever is possible. We also have to learn to accept what cannot be changed.
While we're discussing differences, let us also accept the fact that the context of a relationship should be one of love, and not of expectation.
Love has to go through transformation and purification. Only then would we find that we are bigger than our differences, and that we are slaves to differences.
Differences add richness, variety and spice to life. One should be creative in a relationship. In a music concert, there would be different musical instruments but all of them are harmonised to create symphony.
The many tones, pitches and notes come together in a pleasing symphony. Exactly in the same way, you are different, your spouse is different. Learn to enjoy the differences
The most important aspect in a relationship is that we should stand for transformation and growth. Transformation involves de-hypnotising ourselves.
We are hypnotised into believing that love begins where differences end. Differences in fact add richness to life.
The only thing one should be alert to is that differences should not be based on the ego; but on inner growth. We can operate either from personality or from innocence.
Personality comes from ego while innocence comes from a childlike nature. That which arises out of ego makes you feel heavy whereas what arises out of childlike innocence makes you feel light.
When we are happy and pure and operate from innocence, our logic will have a different lustre; our understanding would have a different aura. It becomes divine.
On the contrary, when we are impure and unhappy, our logic becomes dull and dry. The greatest decision one has to make is the decision to be good, happy and helpful to humanity.
In every organisation it is important to take healthy decisions and create good discipline. This adds character to organisational culture.
Enjoy life's differences and make decisions that take you closer to your destination:
Life is an opportunity, cash in on it. Life is an adventure, get into it. Life is a tragedy, grow from it. Life is a struggle, make it sacred. Life is a song, sing it. Life is a promise, meet it. Life is a game, play it. Life is a duty, fulfil it. Life is a challenge, face it. Life is a dream, realise it. Life is beauty, feel it. Life is bliss, experience it.